Confidence Building for Self Development


By

Anuradha M.V.
Lecturer
Department of Management studies
Global Academy of Technology
Bangalore
 


Confidence is generally described as a state of being certain either that a hypothesis or prediction is correct or that a chosen course of action is the best or most effective. Confidence is a universal concept in modern sport, and a key factor in determining how well you perform.

Are you very shy when it comes to new surroundings, such as starting a new class or moving to a new area? Sometimes, it is necessary to overcome your shyness and speak confidently. By doing this, it can help you not only to share your ideas properly to others, but also to learn communicating with others. Here are a few steps to consider when speaking with confidence.

Steps:-

1. Learn how to have conversations with people. Your ideas or opinions may not always be accepted by others, but this is nothing unusual. Open your mouth, express your beliefs! This will improve your courage.

2. Don't be afraid and speak loudly. If you speak in a low voice, not only will others not be able to hear what you say, but you will also portray a submissive demeanor, which suggests the opposite of a confident one.

3. Make eye contact when you speak. For one thing, it is polite for others. Also, eye contact will help others to listen to your thinking carefully.

4. Praise yourself everyday! This will promote your own confidence, which is important when you speak. With more confidence, people will take your thinking more seriously.

Tips:-

* Don't be nervous when you make mistakes. Human error is far from being a new concept nobody is perfect! It is normal for everyone to make mistakes. Just calm down and keep speaking bravely.

* Try and try again! This may be difficult for a shy person at first, but you need to force yourself to speak, and not seclude your thoughts. If you have some ideas, then try to speak out! Don't just keep them in your head.

* If you have self confidence issues, try to think that you are the only one who has sound knowledge about the topic. Then go ahead and impart your knowledge to the audience in an effective way.

* Remember that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Don't portray an exaggerated amount of confidence, or you will come off as arrogant, believing that your ideas are better than the ideas of everyone else.

Self-confidence: The first requisite to great undertakings." Samuel Johnson

Self-confidence is having confidence in oneself. Building confidence is a process of recognizing, applying and trusting capability; it's building enough belief in your ability that it enables rather than disables.

One is about respecting who you are, the other is about trusting who you are

Many people yearn to be more self-confident. Yet they have no idea how to achieve that objective. They look at others who have the gift and say, "Hey that's what I want. I hate feeling unsure of myself. I wish I could stop obsessing about what others think of me and quit worrying about disappointing other people. I want to stop anguishing over my decisions and torturing myself about my mistakes.  I think it would be so great to feel self-assured, hold my head up high and stand tall. I've never been self-confident. I wish there were a way I could be."

There is a way. You don't have to be born with self-confidence. Self-confidence can grow and flourish and ripen and blossom until you actually come to feel as though there is a different person inside of you.  Here are some insights that might facilitate the quest.

1. Learn what a self-confident person is really like. They are not cocky, know-it-all   people who don't care what anybody else thinks. They have their doubts. And make mistakes. And are far from perfect.  However, they are willing to acknowledge their inadequacies without dwelling on them. They do this by maintaining a sense of humor, putting problems in perspective, and focusing mainly on what they've done right, not wrong.

2. Though self-confident people do believe in themselves, they don't try to suffocate others with their ideas or beliefs. They are confident in what they know not only because they read, learn and think but also because they respect their instinct, intuition and the unique body of knowledge that they've developed by living life. They realize that one doesn't have to be labeled an "expert" to believe in one's own truths.

3. Self-confident people don't undermine their own worth by comparing themselves with others, only to conclude that they aren't "good enough".  They appreciate their strengths and accomplishments and can acknowledge, without embarrassment, their weaknesses. They don't live in the "victim" position. Even if something really bad has occurred, they turn it into a challenge, remembering to be grateful for the little things in life.

4. Self-confident people let the world know who they are.  If they want something badly enough, they know they have every right to "go for it."  Yet, they also know that the path will rarely be easy. Mistakes, blunders and failures are part of the learning process. They seek to learn from their mistakes and do not waste time torturing themselves over what "could have been".

5. Self-confident people are not obstinate people. If they have an idea about something and it differs from the way another person is thinking about it, they will usually try to look at it from that person's point of view, see why it makes sense to them. Yet, a confident person's sense of self is grounded. It does not blow in the wind. Their ideas do not fluctuate based on what others deem are important. 

Building self esteem and confidence is dependent on breaking old habits and developing new productive ones.  A key habit that needs to be shattered is the habit of negative thinking.  These thoughts are so interwoven into the fabric of your mind that you assume that they are normal and changeable - but they are not! Learning how to acknowledge and deal with your inner critic is an extremely effective way of starting to boost your self esteem. that the three elements involved in becoming more confident are represented by the word ACT.

A stands for ACTION.
C stands for COURAGE.
T stands for Target.

References:

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Anuradha M.V.
Lecturer
Department of Management studies
Global Academy of Technology
Bangalore
 

Source: E-mail August 4, 2010

          

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