Keys to Happiness


By

Dr. Meenakshi Singhal
Senior Lecturer
University of Petroleum & Energy Studies
College of Engineering
Dehradun
 


Life has a way of throwing surprises at us when we least expect them. In many ways, life does bring one down. When unplanned and unexpected events come into our lives, they leave us in a state of pain, grief, doubt, fear and depression.

One feels the need of a strong stable foundation that one can depend on, when life's river takes unexpected turns. A simple formula is needed that can keep us grounded on the path and pointed in the right direction of flow, forgiveness and happiness.

Keep your heart free of hatred:

When people events and circumstances go against our wishes, desires and expectations they create reactions of anger and frustration within us. These reactions are natural and must not be denied or ignored- rather their underlying reasons must be seen and overcome- that of our predecided ideas and expectations being thwarted.

These emotions occur as a natural progression of painful events and are fine as long as they are felt and released. The problem lies when we cannot let go of the feelings and they tend to seep into our hearts where they fester till treated. If such I the case these negative feelings tend to influence our way of thought and necessarily of actions and become an integral part of our outlook towards life itself. Then everything which originates within us carries a subtle flavour of these negative feelings.

The first secret of happiness says that no matter what emotions we feel temporarily, our hearts must be free of hate.

Keep your mind free of worry-

We worry when our thoughts travel either to the future or linger in the past. Worry is a phenomenon which depletes energy and divides the attention- leaving us incapable of giving our best to the moment before us.

The only way to give a hundred percent of yourself to the task at hand is to be totally present in the present moment without thinking that what has gone by and what is still to come- both the cases we have no say or control anyway.

Performing the action totally and to the best of ones ability brings back a positive result based on the law of Karma " As you sow , so shall you reap"- a result which would not be possible had we divided our inner being with worry.

The second secret of happiness is to always perform actions based on careful thought and planning, but without worry.

Give a lot expect a little:

It is crucial for our happiness to come to realization early is life that is our own expectation, pre-conceived ideas and hopes which when frustrated cause most of our pain and agony.

Once this understanding has stabilized within us we begin to live for the moment, and within ourselves instead of seeking outward or external reinforces for our self-esteem or happiness. It is not enough for us to be passive spectators of our own life, we must also be willing too give and share freely our best qualities without waiting for a similar return.

It is always wise and practical to remember the advice of numerous spiritual masters that it is in giving that we receive. The free giving of our own self without strings attached brings both peace and contentment in the long run.

The third secret of happiness is o give a lot and expect a little.
 


Dr. Meenakshi Singhal
Senior Lecturer
University of Petroleum & Energy Studies
College of Engineering
Dehradun
 

Source: E-mail May 5, 2006

     

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