Have A Positive Attitude!


By

Ms. Surabhi Agarwal
Lecturer
MBA Department
Saroj Institute of Technology & Management
Lucknow
 


"The way you think, governs the way you act. There are more than one way to think and more than one way to act."
                                                                                            
                -By Prof. Charles Handy

There is a very old paradigm that everyone should have a positive attitude (PA). It is very easy to say but practically it is very difficult to have the positive attitude (PA) every time. Even people who have positive attitudes may have negative attitude in the future, when a problem or crisis arises. The lack of positive attitude is the root cause of tension, anxiety, demoralization, nervousness and depression. Now a day almost everybody is in tension. Students have the problems regarding studies, and examinations. Therefore, they are always in tension. Employees are tensed because of job dissatisfaction. Some have the family and personal problems of finance and compatibility. This does not mean that people would not like to be happy. They know the benefits of having the positive attitude (PA) like:-

  • Feeling life full of joy.
    When someone has the PA he/she will have a joyful life and enjoys every moment of the life.
     
  • Have new innovative and great new ideas through self-brainstorming.
    With the cool mind you will be able to have new innovative and great ideas to work upon that and get success and happiness in the life.
     
  • Feel comfort even with constraints.
    Everybody has some constraints in the life but that does not mean that one should does not have the right to feel the comfort. Feel the life full of comforts and joy without worrying about the constraints. Take some time to think about the limitations that you have in life and try to find the best possible way to overcome this.
     
  • Look younger and smarter.
    Everybody wants the company of people who are full of joy and energy. Your PA will help you to increase your networking, as this will provide another way to expand your business. So, by adopting the PA you will look younger and smarter.
     
  • Steal attention of others.
    Nobody would like to talk with the depressed one. When you are happy, you automatically steal the attention of others. So, be evergreen. No matter whatever is the season viz. happiness or sorrows but be happy and always have the PA to steal the attention of others.
     
  • Good positive and fulfilling relationships
     
  • Feeling more energetic.
     
  • More happiness.
     
  • Greater inner power and strength.
     
  • Helps achieving goals and attaining success.
     
  • Success achieved faster and more easily.
     
  • The ability to inspire and motivate yourself and others.
     
  • The ability to surmount any difficulty.
     
  • Fewer difficulties encountered along the way.
     
  • Life smiles at you.
     
  • People respect you
  • .

The list is very long and may be endless.

One way to have the PA is to follow the 'Bhagwadgita' which says: "Jo hua accha hua, jo ho raha hai accha ho raha hai, aur jo hoga wo bhi accha hoga" (Whatever has happened, that was good. Whatever is happening, that is good and whatever will happen, that will e good).

This shows the pure positive attitude. Can we follow this in reality? Are we able to use this in the same way as mentioned in Bhagwadgita? The answer is 'NO' for majority of people.

To focus at PA in another way is 'The Gandhism' of Mahatma Gandhi which says the do not fight and love people, a day will come when the other person will start loving you. But this needs the expression of love and lots of patience, as this may take time. It requires loads of patience and endless care for all people.

But now a day, this Gandhism seems to be failed because for the knowledge workers in the age of globalization, glocalization, marketization, hedonism, social dynamics, patience is on the wane.

If the answer of the question "How to have the PA?" remains unanswered, the answer may one of several different models/ways and different people may have different solutions.

The 'Mantras' for having the PA are:

  • Choose to be happy.
  • Associate yourself with happy people.
  • Look at the bright side of life.
  • Find reasons to smile more often.
  • Choose to be and stay optimistic.
  • Have faith in yourself and in the Power of the Universe.
  • Contemplate upon the futility of negative thinking and worries.
  • Read inspiring quotes.
  • Read inspiring stories.
  • Repeat affirmations that inspire and motivate you.
  • Visualize only what you want to happen.
  • Learn to master your thoughts.
  • Learn concentration and meditation.

The path to have the PA can be found through a three-step approach:

  • Awareness
  • Acceptance
  • Attitude

Awareness

The first step to have PA is to be aware of what and how we are thinking. We must train ourselves to be aware at all times of how our mind is working the thoughts, thinking patterns and tendencies. Make this a habit. Yes, it is difficult; the meditation technique helps us do this.

Acceptance

When we are aware of something we tend to become judgmental and critical of ourselves or of others. This has the danger of sending us into a vicious cycle of negativity UNLESS we learn to accept what we see and understand. Have an attitude that "it is ok" to think how we are. This acceptance leads to a genuine love and compassion, which forms the bedrock of positive thinking.

Attitude

Once we have accepted what lies within our thoughts, we can actually start working upon how we 'want' to look at that particular person, situation or thing. Let us look at changing attitude with the following example. Suppose you have a negative attitude toward someone. So much so that he puts you in a bad mood the moment you see him. For a moment, find just one small thing or quality in him that you do like. Now remember that one positive thing whenever you meet or interact with him. Gradually, you will see that your feelings towards him will become more positive and things start looking up.

Following these three guidelines and you will find yourself becoming more positive.

In short, you must:

  • "Think about the problem and act smartly".
    Meaning there y, whenever you have a problem, just think about the problem with the cool mind, definitely you will get a solution and act according to that smartly.  
     
  • "Change you mind-set".
    As the change is the only constant in this world because the world is changing with new technologies, processes, systems, etc. We have to run fast to remain at the same place otherwise others will overtake you. So, keep changing yourself as the world changes.

The life and the problems are very much related. Life without problems means lifelessness. Life is just like a sea where water rises and falls. Sometimes water flows slowly and sometimes rapidly like waves on the sea shore. Similarly, life is there. Sometimes you have problems and after getting solved you are joyful and happy.

Remember that every cell in the body also experiences every thought generated in the mind. That is why on a 'good' day you feel yourself exercising better with more flexibility, while on a 'bad' day you feel stiff and lethargic.

Therefore, don't be a coward, be brave and face the problems. This is a part of life. Whenever, you have any problem just start thinking about the problem, how you can solve this crisis with a cool mind and in doing this you should have loads of massive patience. One day you will arrive at the solution and you will be able to solve your problem. That day will be yours day, the 'day of delightful salvation'.
 


Ms. Surabhi Agarwal
Lecturer
MBA Department
Saroj Institute of Technology & Management
Lucknow
 

Source: E-mail January 8, 2008

          

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